Oligoamory

As well as the term, the symbol of Oligoamory likewise emerges from the equivalent template relating to Polyamory.

Both badges feature the red heart, which since medieval times stands as an attribute for romantic love, affection and passion.

Concerning Polyamory, that heart is being supplemented by a closed figure-eight-shaped blue ribbon, a so-called “Lemniscate”. The symbol is intended to represent the infinity and boundlessness of love.

Whereas the heart of Oligoamory is being entwined by a blue double spiral, similar to a so-called “Clothoid”. The pictograph of the double spiral, with its into one another winding coils, is employed by humans since the late Neolithic age to represent becoming and passing away as well as time. The dynamic shape of the double coil is thereby open – and likewise finite.

As the originator of the “Oligoamory symbol” the above-mentioned interpretation of the double spiral is crucial to me because the emphasis on the idiosyncrasies and potentials of the human element are essential to my view of Oligoamory.

Human beings like us are existing spatiotemporally in a both finite as well as transitory world. Our resources and our energies, our sensory perceptions, our time, and therefore also our relationships and even our lifespan is limited and finite.

Exactly this finiteness – and the dawn of the 21^st century makes it quite obvious in so many ways – immediately suggests a more attentive and sustainable husbandry regarding our available treasures of substantial as well as ideational nature.
Our awareness in respect of the ubiquitous finiteness has always evoked in human groups the fascinating aptitude of distribution, shared use, and optimisation of the available.
In the course of this, it becomes globally as well as in the smallest companionship apparent that we have always been particularly successful, if we thereby moved from mere distributional justice towards individual needs-based justice.

Oligoamory wants to invite to a mindful adoption of these vital values into ethical and loving multiple relationships.

The Oligoamory-Heart by Julius Otto Roeber is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.

This is the bLog of the expedition that researches and describes the remote island of “Oligoamory”. Who or what ever attains to these pages is invited to share in the considerations and insights this venture is going to unearth.

Since the author was born in the year of the first oil crisis, he hails aboriginal – as most people currently still alive – from the old world of Monoamory (all right: The term “Di-amory” would be etymological accurate – as it describes a romantic relationship between only two people). Likewise it was there where he gathered basic relationship-experience.

Via sojourns in Tübingen, Metzingen, Löhne, Münster, Havixbeck, Fallersleben, Braunschweig, Meerdorf, Tosterglope, Barmstedt and Dassel he gradually approached the legendary mainland of “Open Relationships”. Once arrived there he initially tried to gain a foothold on the versatile archipelago of Polyamory.

Driven by sheer curiosity and some sophistry, he discovered during one of his expeditions the remote island of Oligoamory, which represents the centre of his research studies ever since.

The expedition leader characterises himself as highly sensitive (SPS) in accordance with the descriptions of the American scientist, clinical psychologist and Jungian psychotherapist Dr. phil. Elaine N. Aron.
He further identifies himself preponderantly as straight, cisgender and male.

In his heart he remains a romantic – and an idealist.