Entry 36 #Jealousy
Reflects on possible reasons for our jealousy – and the difficult way to counter it.
Answers the age-old question: Fallen in love again? When will I tell it to my (existing) loved ones?
Which I dedicate to our valiant companions and our jorney through non-monogamous terrain.
In which I ponder on the term “inclusiveness” – especially regarding the loved ones of our significant others.
Contains a creepy story about a harrowing creature I encountered while dating.
Certain values concerning ethical multiple relationships are surely unchallengable. But it is important that these values serve their users nevertheless.
(Online)Dating is tough business. Regardless if it is monogamous, polyamorous or even oligoamorous.
Asks if returning to monogamy or to live solitary (again) is the easy way out.
Reflects on the dimension of personal freedom regarding our search for intimacy and affection.
Deals with intimacy and the rocky road towards our emotional home.
In which I reflect on those things that restrain me from living oligoamorously.
Tries to answer the question where and how to find likeminded people.
In which I try to fathom the tension between codependency and interdependency – and their bearing on any kind of human relationship.
Non-monogamy and sensory processing sensitivity? In this Entry I explain, why a highly sensitive person (HSP) like myself tinkers with Oligoamory.
Depressions and (multiple)relationships? These two phenomenons don’t have to contradict each other – and there are times when both rather can be means to an end.
I try to shed some light on our complex inner world of self-image and role ascriptions, which always motivate us in our relationships – for good or bad.
Entry 20 #Communication
Which contains introductions into the philosophies of “Nonviolent Communication” and “Radical Honesty” and their significance concerning (multiple) relationships.
Describes why we have to put off our rose-coloured glasses when infatuaton becomes true love.
Tells a tale about the odysseys and fools’s errands which our journey into multiple relationships can be.
Outlines the dissimilar mindsets of pragmatists and idealists and why they are prone to clash.
Entry 16 #Communication
I share with you my inner process why I omitted the opportunity for conversation – which is always risky business in any kind of relationship.
Entry 15 #Trust
In which I take a closer look on mutual trust and self-confidence at the beginning of a relationship.
Contains scientifc answers concerning nearness and other indicators for “good” relationships.
Wherein I am visited by a powerful oligoamorous entity bearing grave implications.
In which I try to answer the question “How many are a few?” by oligoamorous measure.
Tells a story about quite mundane superheroes who fight each day against incredible odds for their loved ones as well as for themselves.
Outlines the effect of varying pace concerning metamours in a multiple relationship.
Wherein the implications of the “emotional contract” in any relationship are described.
In which I trie to describe how to navigate between the rapids of “Togetherness” and “Aloneness”.
Contains considerations about our committment versus our freedom of choice.
Where you will find a tale about the loves of our loved ones.
In which the significance of our associates of choice is proclaimed.
In which a conversation reveals further details of oligoamorous relationship ministration.
Which prospects important values and characteristics concerning Oligoamory itself.
In which a letter explains why the archipelago of Polyamory was abandoned.
Describes, how the journey started and in which manner the island of Oligoamory was discovered.